What is Child Abuse?
If you are worried that you or someone you know is being abused you can get help here
Always Remember: Abuse is Never Your Choice and is Never Your Fault
There are different types of child abuse. You might also hear people talk about abuse by using the words harm, safeguarding or exploitation.
Physical Abuse +
Physical abuse is when your parent or carer deliberately hurts you.
Examples of Physical Abuse are:
- Hitting or kicking you
- Squeezing or twisting parts of your body
- Biting or burning
- Violent shaking or holding you
- A parent or carer making you swallow something that makes you feel ill, or giving you medicine when you don’t need it
Find out more about Physical Abuse
When an adult deliberately hurts a child, such as hitting, shaking, throwing, poisoning, burning, drowning or suffocating.
Emotional Abuse +
You are emotionally abused if your parent or the person caring for you regularly does or says things which make you feel sad, angry, ashamed, or have other negative feelings. It can affect you so much that you may find it difficult to feel positive feelings and have healthy relationships.
Examples of emotional abuse would be:
- Being threatened
- Being made fun of or made to feel stupid
- Seeing violence between people who care for you
- Shouting or breaking things
Find out more about Emotional Abuse
An example of Emotional Abuse would be if a child is being unfairly blamed for everything, all the time, or told they are stupid and made to feel unhappy.
Neglect +
All children and young people have the right to be properly looked after and to have the things they need – like food and drink and a safe home. These are things that you need to be able to grow up healthy and well.
Neglect is when a parent or the person caring for you regularly forgets or deliberately doesn’t give you the right care you need over a long time.
Examples of neglect may be:
- Not being given enough food or enough healthy food to eat
- Not being able to keep clean and warm or not having a clean and warm place to sleep or play
- Not making sure you get to school or to appointments with the doctor or dentist
Find out more about Neglect
Where a child is not being looked after properly, for example, not getting enough to eat or being left alone in dangerous situations.
Sexual Abuse +
Examples of sexual abuse are:
- Being touched or kissed on your private parts
- Being expected to look at, kiss or touch other people’s private parts or have sex
- Being shown sexual pictures or videos or being forced into taking sexual photos
Find out more about Sexual Abuse from Childline here
See Is This Love? for lots of advice about healthy relationships, the information has been themed around conversations showing how easy it is for emotional, physical and sexual abuse to start and go unnoticed before escalating.
The Lucy Faithfull Foundation have recently launched Shore - a safe and anonymous website created just for young people who may worried about their own, or someone else's sexual behaviour.
And Was That OK is a tool for 11-17 yr olds to help you answer the question “Was That OK?” about anything sexual.
Sexual abuse means that someone is forced, pressurised or tricked into taking part in any kind of sexual activity with someone else. This can happen in normal life and online.
Bullying +
Bullying is never your fault – whatever people are saying to you, you never deserve to be bullied.
If someone is making you feel bad in any of the ways listed, you are being bullied:
- being called names, teased or humiliated
- posting, commenting on or liking nasty photos, videos or posts about you online
- being pushed, hit or hurt
- having money or other stuff stolen
- spreading rumours or starting group chats about you
- being ignored, left out or made to feel like you're not wanted
- being threatened, intimidated or sent nasty messages
- trolling you or commenting on your posts or pictures saying nasty things
- someone revealing personal details without your permission
- targeting you over and over again in an online game
Tell someone you trust, like a teacher, who will be able to help you.
Find out more about Types of Bullying
E.g. calling names, damaging property, stealing, spreading rumours, cyberbullying, hurting and getting people into trouble.
Domestic Abuse +
Domestic abuse is when a grown-up threatens, bullies or hurts another adult in the family. This can happen in any family and you can be affected even if you are not the one being hurt.
Domestic abuse includes:
- physical violence
- threats and frightening behaviour
- controlling someone’s life or stopping them from going to work or to school
Nobody should have to experience domestic abuse, if it’s happening, it’s not your fault
Contact Safer Futures if you have experienced or are experiencing domestic abuse and/or sexual violence: 0300 777477
Find out more about Domestic Abuse
When one adult in a family or relationship threatens, bullies or hurts another adult e.g. physically, psychologically, emotionally, sexually or financially.
Exploitation +
Exploitation is when you are being taken advantage of so that someone else can benefit. It is when you are pressurised, forced or tricked into doing something that you do not want to do.
This may be by making you do something against the law, like stealing or hiding stolen things. It may be by making you have sexual relationships with people that you don’t know, or making you take sexual pictures and then using them to threaten you.
Sometimes it is really clear that you are being abused. Sometimes it is more difficult to know or realise because some older friends will trick you into thinking that what is happening is nice, fun, good for you, or that you owe someone so you feel you need to do what they ask. This is still abuse.
Exploitation includes being made to:
- steal, carry or sell drugs
- work for someone unfairly without being paid
- have a sexual relationship with people you don’t know
- film or stream sexual activity
- being made to do things as part of a gang
Find out more about Exploitation from Childline
or from OSCP here
You are being taken advantage of so that someone else can benefit. It is when you are pressurised, forced or tricked into doing something that you do not want to do.